How to Get a Girl to Text You Back

how to get a girl to text you backWhat’s the point in sending a text message if the recipient doesn’t get back to you afterwards?

If there’s no result to your text messaging efforts, it’s quite possible you’re not performing successfully.

The majority of ladies figure out by reviewing your texts whether you’re listening, or in this case, reading or not what they’re writing.

To text successfully you require experience

Don’t do the same old mistakes a number of guys do when they ask girls questions that bore them, namely ‘what are you doing?’ or ‘what’s up?’.

Such questions don’t quite work, not to mention when you and her aren’t that acquainted. This is the first thing you should remember when it comes to learning how to get a girl to text you back.

You should consider some good lines in order to start some efficient conversations. The purpose of such good lines is to determine the girls, or one particular girl to talk to you repeatedly.

When you’re texting a girl you’re in a competition with others that also look forward to gain the girls’ attention. The idea is to send texts that will position you better than the rest of the competition.

The shorter, the better

So in case you’re looking to start texting with a girl, you should be the one to start flashing the signals. No matter what you’re actually looking for, either just a plain friendship or maybe more than that, a particular love interest, you should note that there are certain steps that need following in order to develop your texts to be more productive so that that particular lady will respond.

Rule #1

Don’t even think about getting the girl to enter a relationship with you through your messages. The idea of texting is getting her to like the way you are, the person you represent, namely to be interesting enough for her to start being attracted to you.

Once you succeed in doing so by sending her texts, you are more likely in getting her to make room in her agenda for you so that she can meet you in person.

Rule #2

Don’t buzz her with lots of text messages. The idea is not to bother the girl while she is doing something else or maybe concentrating towards other activities.

If you crowd her with your messages, you may seem to be too lonely or excited about her. You should know no girl is looking for a guy that comes off a little bit too sticky!

Rule #3

Every girl is tired of those classic text messages that go over and over on the net. Create something unique yourself, be spontaneous and make her laugh by sending funny things that are your own (See more Create flirting text messages for her).

Here’s what you need to do

You and the lady you’re texting are not that acquainted, so you should avoid going too up close and personal with her. Set your mind on a funny conversation and flirt with her but avoid sensitive subjects.

She is not the person to clean out your sins, so don’t even think in telling her how you’ve had problems getting along with authority.

Try not to scare the girl away. You want her to know you a bit but you really want her to crave being a part of your wonderful world.

Be good when you text and be sure to outstand your competition with the texts that you send.

The competition: “Hello love, what’s up?”

You: “Hi [girl-name]. I thought that there’s someone in the house, but it was just my cat, she startled me. I don’t know whether to calm down or laugh. And what is amusing you at the moment?”

The competition text comes out as corny and boring – not quite a conversation starter.

But the second message is keen in getting her to see you as a funny person and she’ll want to know more about your personality, so she’ll start replying.

Another thing to keep in mind is that second message can’t be terminated with a simple yes/no answer, so that leaves your imagination to work your way to who knows where?


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About Alex J. Stevenson
Alex J. Stevenson is not a kind of dating expert who bangs a woman one night and runs after another one next morning. Instead, he is a fun-loving guy who has been reading dating and psychology books since last 6 years. If you tired of none working PUAs bullshit, you're welcome to his website.

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4 thoughts on “How to Get a Girl to Text You Back

  1. Abdul

    Hi Alex,

    Here is my question to you.

    Why doesn’t she text me first?

    I like her and I believe that she likes me, too. Whenever I texted her, we always had a decent conversation. She also text me cute things while she text but my problem is that she doesn’t text me first. It is I who always start the text conversation. What can I do to make her text me first?

    I never took her on a date.

    1. Alex J. Stevenson Post author

      She might be putting you on the ‘Friend Zone’. If a girl replies your text with a decent manner then it doesn’t mean that she is doing so because she likes you.

      She might be a decent girl :) or she might be decent because did’t want to hurt you and so on.

      I am saying this because she doesn’t text you first and you haven’t dated her. If you want her to text you first, then you must develop chemistry in her mind about you.

      Thereafter, you should ask her for a meet up over text, and then you should build attraction in your face-to-face conversation.

      Only then, you will be assured that she will text you first.

  2. Nicholas shan

    I have a problem in the dating world. The girls I love don’t show any interest in me but those who chase me, I don’t have any interest on them. What do I do?

    1. Alex J. Stevenson Post author

      Show Interests in those who are chasing after you, and develop additional dating skills. Soon, those are not interested in you, feel attraction towards you case of ‘Social Proof’.


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